MARYAM BARRIE
Elegy
I slowly pour the grey grit and powder
of my mother’s ashes into mason jars
for my siblings and daughters. I wear
a mask and nitrile gloves to keep the dust
of her contained. I don’t want to waste her
on my skin. I cover each layer of ash with
dried rose petals –a sort of mom parfait
for each of us. When I scattered what remained
of my childhood friend in the Raisin River,
I coated my hands with him, put the fine gravel
of him to my tongue. My therapist tells me
harsh, toxic chemicals are used in cremation –
we shouldn’t ingest them. Still, I was glad
to take something of him into me for safe-keeping.
I learn from my mistakes. There is much in me
of my mother already. I don’t need more.
There were ways she was toxic, but I don’t
think of her as harsh. She used to say
I’m not angry, I’m just disappointed. Her silent
resentments and frustrations permeated the air.
In my recent dream, she was trying on a second
life as a hands-on healer, anointing sleeping
patients with oils and prayer without their doctors’
consent. I worried she would get into trouble.
She no longer had a phone, or money, because she
was dead. Then, she was lost, and I had to find her.
I still can’t find her, though I’m receiving her last
pieces of mail. I’m compiling her tax documents
to posthumously file her last year of obligation
to anyone. Her rose-layered ashes radiate
something I still can’t understand
from the jar where they wait –
how she turned from living to dead,
how the old anger dried up and left me.